Biography Varya Maxim

Singer Varya Maxim thought: why so much hatred in the publics of Yakutia? The basis, apparently, served as condemnation and insults under the video in which the singer was spoiled by the world star Jennifer Lopez. I have not been discussed for a long time, and, in principle, I know that not everyone likes it. In theory, I don't understand this either. To judge a person by his appearance is a bad tone for a long time, but some remained in the Middle Ages and they would only suck in the comments of someone's imperfect forms.

By the way, in ideal forms there is also an imperfect nuance - give only will. Maybe in adolescence, I could discuss the flaws of anyone with a girlfriend, but I have long outgrave these conversations. Do people do not develop to such an extent. Unreasonable in the sense that if only to bite someone. For example, take me: I devoted my whole life to music, wrote and performed dozens of beautiful songs, on which more than one generation has grown.

I broadcast a healthy lifestyle, family values, love of life, hard work and awareness. But each time I catch a bunch of negativity addressed to me. Either I sing incorrectly, then I don’t look enough, then not young enough, then something else, ”the singer wrote on social networks. How to make people kinder, Varya Maxim thought, to whom, after a parody of Jay La, commentators wrote: “Why do some of the years undress”; “Yes, boldly, but for some reason I am funny”; "Uoaaakhtaabit Ebit"; “Fat and crookedly, well, how can it be demonstrated”; “Why put yourself on a laughing stock without a beautiful figure”; “Still, it seems to me that in order to look aesthetically in a suit of Jay Law, you must be in shape, like Jay Lu,” “Why is it ashamed of me.” Most of the negative and toxic comments were left by women.

Behind anger is always a bunch of other emotions: resentment, envy, disappointment, shame, unrealization, the psychologist Tuaara Lepchikova believes. And again we love what you like in yourself, ”she says. It is not customary for us to share our experiences. We copy everything, keep in ourselves, think about it, wrap it up: “Here he said so. And I had to answer this, to do this.

But I could not. " A person cannot always be silent, so all the accumulated emotions pour out in the comments. We spend all our energy on the past, our unrealization. And often Hater thinks: “Why should it be bad only to me? Let everyone be bad, ”the chain reaction of anger and hatred starts. And if we directed all our strength and time to our future, it would be much more useful and more effective for ourselves, ”the specialist is sure.

External differences instantly launch the resentment and indignation of people, which they have due to the lack of comfort, prosperity, help, support and care, says psychologist Ksenia Ivashkovskaya. In addition, in her opinion, there are people who, with the help of criticism, quench their need to feel knowledgeable, the leader of the opinion in the chat. They criticize, and then begin to talk about their own views and knowledge.

Sometimes it occupies a whole paragraph, ”the psychologist believes.